#tidy up

[bikiniarmorbattledamage]

Pornography Addiction

Recently our post on the behavour of Capital-G Gamers, and the problems in the industry that feed into it, attracted a lot of comments advising not to use "porn addict". Some claiming the term was invented by right-wing Christian groups.

It is certainly true that there are various right-wing and/or Christian groups do claim pornography addiction as a reason to revoke basic human rights, further marginalize sex workers, and justify violence against sex workers... that doesn't mean they invented it.

Like most things the radical right relies upon, they co-opted it from a group they have contempt for. Nazis co-opted the Swastika from Buddhism, shitty men on Reddit co-opted involuntary celibacy terminology from a bisexual woman, right-wing pseudo-academics tried to co-opt diversity with their "diversity of thought" campaign... and hateful Christian groups are trying to co-opt expertise on behavioural addictions (sex, gambling, shopping, pornography, etc as opposed to substance addtions) from psychology.

It's worth examining how this is working with pornography and the ways it ties in with the various fashy parties determined to rule the world we all live in.

Actual Pornography Addiction

Actual pornography addiction has its roots in similar addictions such as gambling - it is a situation where the individual becomes obsessed with it as a source of positive feelings, to the detriment of themselves and those around them.

Symptoms of it include a full blown obsession, a loss of interest in other enjoyable activities, spending money needed for essentials on the focus of the addiction, engaging it under risk circumstances (such as while at a job that you really need to keep), suffering anxiety and frustration when unable to indulge, etc.

Importantly, with these kinds of addictions, they are often not really about what what they appear to be. People get addicted sometimes because it's a reliable source of dopamine hits, or because it provides an escape from harsh realities around them, etc. Taking the focus of the addiction away does not fix the underlying cause, and often leads to them finding a substitute addiction.

So, if you say... for the sake of argument, you have a group of people who actively identify as "gooners", remember a porn parody of Lola Bunny as the "real" design, obsess over a single game because it has some sexy skins, make 9/11 jokes and riot when a quality of life feature prevents them from looking up video game girl skirts, and all the points in the original post (including want to fap to a character who is defined by how she's been abused by men)... it's not unreasonable to point out they do seem to be advertising to the world that they are current or aspiring pornography addicts. Particularly since their outrage is rarely about what they actually claim it is about.

How much it applies to any given member of that community is impossible to say, as the whole group is irony poisoned and also obsessed with performative behaviour.

And as a side note, if someone dear to you has similar behavior, whether its in relation to porn, sex, gambling, video games, or anything else - then it is generally considered the compassionte thing to try to get them to realize it and work towards addressing both the addiction and any underlying causes in their life.

Right-wing "Pornography Addiction"

When people who have nothing but contempt for psychology and sex therapists say "porn addiction" or "sex addiction" they are villifying sex workers and objectified persons, blaming them for the violence done against them and completely unrelated ills in society.

They consider it "addiction" if you develop a crush on someone other than your spouse, have normal sexual fantasies, occasionally want to enjoy pornography, are curious about visiting a strip bar or even just masturbate... under any circumstances.

They are closer to anti-pornography than concerned for addiction, and has a long, long history. I would hope BABD followers would be aware we are definitely not anti-porn and we actively support sex workers.

Obviously, the real goal is to give them more control and more avenues to suppress people. This is clearly illustrated in the ways Project 2025 both wants to outlaw pornography and define "transgender ideology" as pornograpy. You can see between the lines, the goal isn't to make people better, the goal is to criminalize the existence of people they look down on.

Also, the solutions they propose clearly don't help anyone and they know that - South Korea has strict anti-porn laws, and the "gooner" community mistake it for a porny wonderland. Again, they don't want to help anyone, they just want to hurt people they do not like.

The harm of co-opting

At face value, it's easy to see why the proposed solution to this is just to say it's not real, it's right-wing nonsense, etc.

But that creates two problems. First it means there's people with a problem that is being denied, and secondly it kind of ignores the real overall goals by missing the forest for the trees.

People whose lives are harmed by behavioural addiction need a framework to be able to address it, and need other people to take it seriously and not just dismiss it as "made up". This applies to gambling, shopping, gaming and pornography.

Think about it, when was the last time you saw a swastika on display as a symbol of positivity? Think "incel" is ever coming back to the LGBTQ people who struggle to find people accepting of them?

Secondly, the reactionaries co-opting it are not "making up" a boogieman. They're not that imaginative and they're much, much more dishonest and malicious.

They're actively spreading misinformation in an attempt to gain for authoritarian power to use to harm people. They're actively trying to undermine the work people have done to help people, stripping the actual research away and placing themselves as the authority on a topic of public wellbeing that they see only as a cudgel.

Because they won't stop at just claiming to be the experts on pornography addiction, they'll claim to be the experts on gambling, drugs, alcohol, gaming, shopping, etc. All their advice will be what's convenient for them, and their friends.

Same way all kinds of psychological concepts get co-opted into torturing people under the claim of conversion therapy (which does not and has never worked, in any capacity), often in the name of profit as well as oppression.

So my recommendation is be less concerned about the term appearing, and more concerned about whether it is in the context of warning people their obsession is harmful - or just trying to trick people into agreeing to authoritarian control.

-wincenworks

[catboybiologist]

Girl you are sex on legs

Maybe I could be sex off legs? *Kneels* You've already swept me off my feet, after all

[tikuo2007]

『そろそろ片付けるか』

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[growinggoblin]

Okay, I've had breakfast, now it's time to do something. Halloween is over, Sint-Maarten is almost here (it's the 11th) and the Saturday after that Sinterklaas will be here already. So, time to tidy up my Halloween items.

I've been using this little organiser (on wheels, I store shoes in its drawers) as a bit of a "jewelry station" but it's also gathered more clutter. Brb tidying it up!

[bluedesignwall]

I put the stones back and filled the bird bath. It seems to be holding the water well. There is rain in the air so it may be hard to tell if we have stemmed the flow but it looks better.

[allo-frouto]

Do you have much to do? Or is it sometimes a bit boring if you have nothing to do? Sounds harsher as I meant it 😅

Actually, it gets kinda boring when there are no people in the store but I always try and find something to do!

[wylansworkshop]

I really need to shower but my bed is so comfy

[identifying-moves-in-posts]

Tidy Up

Normal | 10pp | power -- | acc --

The user tidies up and removes the effects of Spikes, Stealth Rock, Sticky Web, Toxic Spikes, and Substitute. This also boosts the user’s Attack and Speed stats.

[kyodesyo]

In a sleek, modern office, a large wooden desk stands as the centerpiece, embodying both functionality and elegance. The desk is meticulously organized, with a laptop, a notebook, a pen, and a small cup arranged in a precise manner. This setup is not just a testament to aesthetic appeal but also to the efficiency and productivity of the person who works here.

The black office chair behind the desk is ready for someone who values their work environment. The green wall and the large white canvas in the background, along with the natural light streaming through the tall window, create a serene and focused atmosphere. The small potted plant adds a touch of nature, symbolizing growth and calmness.

This organized and thoughtfully designed workspace reflects the mindset of a person who is not only capable but also dedicated to maintaining a clutter-free and productive environment. In the end, the cleanliness and order of this workspace speak volumes about the professional's ability to manage tasks efficiently and stay on top of their work. This level of organization is a clear indicator of someone who is in control and ready to tackle challenges head-on.

[bikiniarmorbattledamage]

Tidy Up Tuesday #101

Unfortunately while I did do some searching etc, at the time I posted the Friday sexy male armor post I was not aware that Terese Neilsen was exposed as a TERF, racist and general reactionary terrible person back in 2019 - which is why Wizards of the Coast stopped working with her. (Those Terese very much still tries to associate herself with Magic the Gathering).

After discovering this I applied an edit to the post, and looked into her current goings on - I don't think a redemption arc is coming any time soon. Thank you to @araglar for the notification.

Female Armor Bingo

For those that weren't aware, the bingo is not intended as a highly targeted tool for real analysis, but rather a sort of fun conversation starter and general indicator.

As we've posted before, it's not necessary for it to be tailored for any given item - or any given bingo to be 100% accurate (particularly given there are always some areas that are up for debate). It's just for illustrative purposes.

And honestly one of the saddest things about that is that in all the years we've been doing this - there hasn't been much innovation or need to adapt it to the times.

I'm beginning to think that part of the reason brodudes are mad all the time is they know that "woke" perverts are way more fun and creative than they will ever be.

-wincenworks

[daylerogers]

Tidy Up

When you choose the insanity of inviting close to one hundred people to your home for a barbecue, preparations need to be made to be able to be appropriately hospitable. There are those who might think us a tad bit unhinged by having so many folks over at the same time. We lead busy lives and would enjoy having people over more frequently, but time restraints and simple exhaustion made that a…

[zetasattic]

Small Changes

Yesterday in an attempt to tidy the studio I made some small changes. I just switched out some cloth, trading what was in the trunk that I couldn’t see to the narrow cabinet and putting the big sheets I use for rag rugs and such in the trunk and switched the bookshelves too, moving the yarns to where the art supplies lived and the art supplies where the yarns lived and then I covered up the…

[growinggoblin]

These past few days I didn't buy anything, but that's easy cause I didn't leave the house. Luckily I'm not a huge online shopper or at least I'm not someone who visits online shops all the time. I did buy a cookie today which I shouldn't have lol

But, I did try out several jackets and made the choice to do away with two of them. I'll take pictures tomorrow. I always try to make pictures of stuff I declutter, unless it's trash or something. For myself, both as a reminder of the items and my progress in decluttering.

Although the only reason I even saw those jackets today is cause I was putting away three new-to-me sweaters I got for free in December, lol. (There's a fourth but I'm wearing it right now, haha. And in my defense, two of them are Spooky™, one of them has galaxy print, laser eyed pterodactyls and huge cats destroying an American city on it and the fourth one has Pusheens)

I also tidied up all the clean shirts I had lying in a huge pile in my room, on the chair. Sisyphean task, but nice to have done anyway

[sopuu]

lab “partners”

[ministarfruit]

yuri month day 13: I want you to treat me ♡

(femslashfeb prompt list)

[pianokantzart]

Certified house husband Luigi